Life And Self Improvement

A friend suggested that this title could lead to an interesting article, and I think she is absolutely right. How do you say “no” when you know that someone else is hoping for the opposite response? And how do you keep everything happy when they potentially want different things?

The best way forward, as a rule, very direct and honest, your intention, after all, do no harm to another person, but only on what you think is right. There is no point in going along with what you do not want to do if you feel frustrated and dissatisfied, it would only cause inconvenience to all parties and would defeat the whole object agreement in the first place.

If you’re going to do something, then it should be done with good grace, for the sake of everyone. If you say “yes” to the recognition and commitment to make most things, the result would have been very positive. Just accept that you are going to look on the bright side means that you would indeed do just that, and eventually, you would have fun.

Much depends, of course, what is it that you have difficulty saying “no”. If you really, really wanted to say “no” or if it was very important to you, you tend to find quite easy to say your piece. If you feel that you are just being selfish, saying “no”, it is somewhat harder to reconcile what you want to do with the fact that you feel that you have to do.

Perhaps then the question you must ask yourself, is not to say “no”, but why is it so important that you say “no”? In reality, the fact that you are having so much trouble saying “no” may mean that you really have not made your mind as what you yourself wish to reality. It is possible that you are suffering from internal conflicts with your logical mind says one thing and your emotions speak another; a classic case of “be in two minds.”

For some people, there is a secondary growth occurs along with things or agreeing to things that they would prefer to say “no”. Ultimately, we all wanted to be liked, we would like to please. We really do not want to disappoint others, particularly those we care about. So, I say “yes” and agreeing on things, there is an element to a pleasant, simply acting in favor of another person.
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